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UK LGBT EVENTS - Choose Yr Own Adventure #1: sober QLGBT dance party
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Choose Yr Own Adventure #1: sober QLGBT dance party

The first Choose Yr Own Adventure ever! CYOA is a queer+LGBT dance party in West London for ppl who want a nite out without alcohol/intoxicants. Come ppl of all genders&sexualities, all bodies&characters, let's make it amazing! Entry: pay what you can (if you can't afford to pay, nothing is fine!), suggested 4. - Why sober? Queer+LGBT spaces, as well as clubs generally, are often heavily centred around drinking, & sometimes we need alternatives. Ppl have lots of reasons for wanting space away from alcohol&c. Mebbe you can't drink/take intoxicants, for yr health or because of recovery. Mebbe you don't partake, whether for effects/taste/price/any no. of other reasons. Mebbe intoxicated spaces feel less safe to you - & while everyone's responsible for what they do under the influence, alcohol & drugs can make ppl less safe in many ways. Mebbe you just want to try going out dancing sober, without the pressure of intoxicant-oriented spaces, or bc the nite before was hard & you want a break. For many ppl, the presence or absence of alcohol/intoxicants is a basic accessibility & safer space issue. Please respect that: however lovely you might be when not sober, it may be a serious issue for others. Bc of this, please don't drink/take drugs before coming - sorry, but you won't be welcome. You can have fun without, promise. & if you really don't like the thought of going out sober, please remember there are *loads* of spaces that already cater to you on that front, & very few for the ppl for whom the opposite is true. For something a bit more in-depth, here are a couple of takes on the need for sober spaces, particularly within queer+LGBT communities: Fabian Romero - Sober Spaces & Accessibility in the Queer Community: http://is.gd/SIcR0F Clementine Morrigan & Geoff - Community, Accessibility & Sober Spaces: http://is.gd/qpC1Wy - What music does CYOA play? Music to dance to. Femme pop, glittery electro, shouty riot grrrl songs &c. Robyn. Janelle Mone. Le Tigre. Rihanna. Ladytron. Huggy Bear. MIA. Au Pairs. Kenickie. Katy B. 2NE1. Angel Haze. &so on. - Accessibility: Redemption Bar is wheelchair accessible. There won't be strobes. Music will be loud. There's capacity for ~100. If youve any specific questions or issues, leave or send a message & we'll see what can be done. There will be security; this isn't ideal, but atm we think it's safer than the risk of anyone making the safe less space for others. Sexual & other harassment won't be tolerated, & nor will transphobia, body policing, misogyny, racism, disablism, or turning up intoxicated. While a club nite isn't for everyone, & isn't any basis for a utopian project, & while we recognise totally "safe spaces" do not exist in this society, CYOA is committed to doing whatever is reasonably possible to make things as safe as possible. We want everyone to feel able to express their genders & sexualities however they wish without fear of harassment. We want celebration of different bodies & personalities. We don't want cool clubs, & we don't want cool-of-uncoolness clubs. A lot of how this works out in the details is up to you!, but if there's anything making you feel unsafe, then a) on the night, let security or someone at the venue know, & b) we'd be happy to discuss in private or public what can be done to help/mitigate - send a message to Angelica (DJ Riot Star). - Redemption Bar is a sober bar at the base of Trellick Tower, W10. It's five minutes walk from Westbourne Park (Circle and Hammersmith & City lines) and twenty minutes walk from Queen's Park (Bakerloo and Overground). The 23 bus runs 24 hours to Oxford Circus/Liverpool St.

Tickets : £ 4 Tickets

Address : Redemption
13-15 Golborne Road
London
W10 5NY

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